Be it looks, hair, clothing, success, attention, romantic envy - comparison is typically the sister to jealousy. It breeds it, it fuels it, and jealousy is in no way a positive emotion. Instead of comparing, practice shaping positive thoughts about you and the other person as opposed to you versus the other person. Their light doesn't dull yours, you both have the ability to shine bright.
RESPECTING YOUR TRUTHS THROUGH AWARENESS, ACKNOWLEDGEMENT, & EXPRESSION.
A lot of people fall into the habit of keeping every thought to themselves as a result of finding it inappropriate, out of fear, or just feeling as though they'd be misunderstood. I think it's important to not think about the external as much as what's internal. What should matter most to you is how you feel about you. And holding things back, keeping truths in, is a way of clouding the spirit, the mind, and adds tension to yourself because you are suppressing the truth that is already inside of you, but telling yourself that the truth is not viable or permitted in the real world environment. If something is on your mind, speak up. Your body will thank you for it.
CLEANSE THE SPIRIT THROUGH PRAYER/MEDITATION.
I feel completely renewed after a good cry. Hell, even after a bad cry. There is just something about letting emotion overcome you and pour out of you until there's nothing left. I think tears is the healthiest form of emotion that leads to that. However, sometimes tears are not accessible to act as a cleansing method for the soul. I suggest that in order to get that sense of renewal, clarity, and cleansing to either look toward prayer or mediation. There is power in knowledge of there being bigger entities in this world other than yourself. And that knowledge relieves a lot of weight. I recommend doing some form of healthy self-healing 1-2 times a day, or as needed.
TELLING YOURSELF THAT YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL EVERYDAY.
Practicing positive reinforcement through kind words to yourself. For example, every morning as you're washing your face or doing your morning routine, stare at your reflection and say one thing you love about yourself or keep it simple and say "You're beautiful" That positivity adds radiance and light to your external by cultivating beauty in the internal.
SPENDING TIME WITH THE SELF, ALONE.
Whether it is quiet time in your bed reading or going to a movie, maybe treating yourself to a nice lunch or dinner. Being alone with the self is important in terms of love, as with people, you love more as you grow, as you experience, and spend time with yourself.
LEARNING WHAT WAYS/THINGS MAKE YOU FEEL GREAT ABOUT YOURSELF & FACTORING THEM INTO YOUR LIFE DAILY.
How you treat yourself in even the smallest of ways is so vital to self love. In a later post, I will detail ways that I implement those self-love triggers throughout my day to day life.
What do you do for self-love? Share below.